Editor’s note: This article was originally published at Trade Ticker by Trade Navigator and is reprinted here with permission.
I recently attended a high school wrestling match to support a friend’s son. It brought back memories of when I used to wrestle in high school. I had all but forgotten a secret I had learned in wrestling that helped get me to state championships in both tennis and wrestling.
How could wrestling or tennis relate to trading? How do these relate to investing in losing, my trading, and my life? That is what I discuss this month.
Investing in Losing
I was invited to join the high school wrestling team my junior year. I had participated in football but not wrestling. Walking out in the one piece unitards was not my idea of fun. My coach kept telling me how much fun it would be and to, “give it a try.”
At first, all I could see and feel was a hard workout with guys, doing all kind of weird and impressive moves, to gain the upper hand on their opponents. I was reserved and not willing to lose. That was until my coach said, “Pretend like no one is watching you. Make a fool of yourself and try all the moves that come to mind. Be okay with losing. BE OKAY with losing …”
That got me to thinking, “What the heck, I’ll wrestle and know it’s okay for me to lose.”
What a mind-freeing realization that was. I was now willing to wrestle the current state champ on our team, who consistently pinned me. That was okay, because I was seeing just how he did it and learning what I could do to improve. Everyone else on the team avoided being his wrestling partner because they knew they would get pinned. Since I was okay with getting beat by the state champ, I could volunteer to be his partner. Then, I would wrestle our heavy weight, who could easily toss me around like a doll. Again, it didn’t matter because I was doing my best and getting better even though I was losing.
When I entered my first wrestling meet, the opponent I wrestled was state ranked, very experienced, and I was admittedly, intimidated. At the whistle, we locked-up and began jockeying for position against one another. All of a sudden, he tried a move that our state champion had used on me in practice. After having that tried on me so many times, and getting pinned, I was able to counter the move and pulled off an upset. My coach looked and me and asked where I had learned that move. I mentioned it came from wrestling someone better than me. Getting pinned all those times had just paid off. I had been willing to invest in losing to get better. This approach took me to state championships my junior and senior years.
What I found interesting was that I carried that same attitude when I began playing tennis after the wrestling session. Once again, I would seek out a player who was better than I, to play against as often as I could. Sure enough, I would consistently get beat by the better player. However, when a great shot was made, or I was setup, I would go over the method used by the other player. The more I got beat, the better I became.
My reflexes in responding to the various conditions began to just feel right.
It wasn’t until I was watching my friend’s son wrestle that I was reminded of my approach … of being willing to invest in losing to get better.
I was thinking about the concept of investing in loss to get better and my mind quickly turned to trading and, in general, our lives. It seems we tend to avoid those conditions or circumstances where we would not look good in front of others. We worry too much about our image and, “what if I screw up,” more than considering what we could learn from the experience, regardless of the outcome.
We all want to avoid losing …
We all tend to want to avoid losing. Often, we will do everything we can to avoid losing that we miss the opportunity for growth. For example, my kids were complaining about quizzes their teachers gave during their classes. I asked them, “If they didn’t ever give you a test and never gave you a quiz, how well would you really learn the material?” And if they didn’t know that without studying they could fail tests and quizzes, would they learn the material as well? They conceded that they probably would not learn as well as they do with the quizzes and the knowledge that they will be tested.
So it is, with our trading, and in our lives. If we weren’t pushed or tested, if we didn’t experience failure or challenges, we wouldn’t
progress. It is in experiencing the losses that we are helped and experience growth the fastest … if we allow it.
For example, in our trading we avoid certain types of trades because we are afraid of them. Perhaps we only take long trades and not short trades. Or maybe, only trade shorts and never trade long because when you do, you always take losses. We then begin to stay away from trading in all conditions. Why practice any trading, in any conditions? Sooner or later, you will get caught in a long or short position, so you need to know how to react and how you will trade these different conditions. To get that exposure, you have to be willing to invest in losing.
The irony is, it seems, that we do all we can to avoid losing. Since each loss comes at the expense of losing money, we obviously do all we can to not lose. After all, controlling losses is how you make money. But notice I didn’t say anything about not having any losses, I said, “controlling losses.”
Here is the part that fascinates me and other traders. We know we should take losses, we know we will have losses, but often we will make mistake upon mistake to avoid these losses.
For example, in NFL football, the great quarterbacks can throw an interception, go off the field, and they learn from that mistake. The great quarterbacks do not let that first interception throw them. They are able to come back on the field and continue, leaving the mistake behind them. The common quarterback is unable to let go of his first mistake and continues to make additional mistakes trying to compensate for his first interception. He allows his mistakes to compound.
That is how we need to approach trading. We need to be willing to get in and get after the trades. When a trade doesn’t work out, we need to review if a mistake was made or if the trade just didn’t work out. We shouldn’t add to an initial mistake or error by holding on just a little longer. Or worse, we shouldn’t compound the mistake by buying more positions so you average down or by moving your stops. Compounding our mistakes are the types of errors that will cost you.
The Path to Excellence Is Paved With Loss

I must reiterate, do not lose the value of any losses you may have had. The great chess player Josh Waitzkin, of whom the movie Searching for Bobby Fischer was based, always kept a journal of his matches. When he lost, he would go back, recreate the conditions at the critical moves, and determine what he was thinking; what he was feeling and why he made that choice. By going through this review process, he was able to gain from his losses. His investment in losses was paid back in being able to overcome similar challenges when they arose … just as I had, when overcoming a similar move in my first wrestling match.
Another example of investing in loss is Tiger Woods. Due to his poor performance in recent years, he has invested in deconstructing his complete swing in order to improve it. Has he had losses since he has been rebuilding? Most certainly, but he also is beginning to have a few more wins.
My challenge this month is that you be willing to invest in losses and make the most of them. Don’t just look at how much you lost and fail to review the conditions in your mind, emotions, and the market conditions. If you only trade in one direction, paper-trade both sides, also. Learn the long and short conditions and signals. Tear down your trading methods, like Tiger did his swing, if you need to improve your trading. Be willing to take those trades when your system signals to. Be willing to rebuild and invest in losses. If you find yourself unable to take your system trades, try trading the smallest units possible or simulate trading with paper trading. But whatever you do, DO something! Gain the most from your losses by learning from them, by-and-by reviewing these losses. Don’t let them slip by otherwise your losses are just losses with no value.
When you have made a mistake in life or in trading, stop and determine if your next actions are compounding your original mistake. If so, stop it!

Remember, Michael Jordan was known as the best at taking last second, winning shots. What he is not known for is having taken the most last-second losing shots, too. But he was willing to take the shot and invest in losing so he could improve his performance. What made him great was not his perfection, but his willingness to put himself out there. So it should be with our lives and our trading.
I urge you to take time to review your trades and review your actions in your everyday lives. If you are afraid of trying a new skill or worried about how you might look, or what people might think, go ahead and psychologically give yourself room to invest in loss. You might just be on the road to becoming a legend, yourself.